A reality of dating and being sexually active is the dreaded human papilloma virus (HPV) that can many times causes abnormal pap smears or worse, cervical cancer.
A loop electrosurgical excision procedure or LEEP is given to women with persistent abnormal pap smears as a result of cervical dysplasia, which is a change in cervical cells. The LEEP is no fun, but it may also be a life saver by preventing cervical cancer.
HPV is a sexually transmitted disease that many men and women contract in their 20s, although many people don’t ever show symptoms like warts or for women, abnormal paps. If your doctor feels that your persistent abnormal pap smears or dysplasia can be remedied by the LEEP procedure don’t fret; it’s manageable.
Here are the LEEP facts:
1) This is done as an outpatient procedure by your doctor
2) You won’t be put under, but a local anesthetic will be used
3) It lasts only a few minutes
4) Using a device that is in the shape of a loop, electrical currents are sent to the device to scoop out the troubled portions of your cervix (sounds worse than it is)
5) Once the doctor is done you are free to leave
6) You may be crampy and will have bleeding, but most of the time this stops after a couple of days
Bring a friend or someone you can count on to drive you home. It also might be a good idea to take the day off and just relax. Even though it is outpatient its can be a little traumatic.
Women who have a LEEP are able to carry a pregnancy full term and in most cases the occurrence of cervical cancer after a LEEP is very rare. In fact, most times pap smears return to normal within a year.
Effectively approaching someone online is an important issue. It is probably one of the most important steps in meeting someone online—second to having a well-written profile.
Think of it like this…you see someone across the room of a restaurant standing by the bar. She has a beautiful smile, gorgeous legs, and a nicely put together outfit. You notice that she’s been looking at you even making eye contact a few times.
You get up the courage to talk to her and excuse yourself from your table of friends. Walking right up to her you flash your pearly whites, put out your hand, and introduce yourself when she says:
“Do you mind stepping back? You just spit on my face.”
See what I mean? Don’t blow your chance at a first impression in online dating by saying something in an e-mail or online chat that is over the top or boring. Craft a smart and clever e-mail, and if you have trouble coming up with your own ideas, try these ice breakers.
1) If I were to write a book, the main character would be…
2) The best beach I have ever been to was…
3) If reincarnation is real, I hope to come back as a…
4) I once saw a painting that reminded me of…
5) The one noise I wish I could mute from the world is…
6) If I had to eat the same thing for the rest of my life it would be…
7) I feel bad for my remote control because…
Dating Tales knows compliments. When it comes to complimenting men, there are two things you must keep in mind. First, you need to stroke his ego. Second, you need to acknowledge something he has done or acknowledge his overall wonderful-ness in a genuine way.
Sorry men. I don’t mean to sound condescending; I just mean to help you out. So are you in need of a few good compliments for a man? Here are a seven ideas for you.
1) This is the best gift you have ever given me.
2) You always make me laugh with your knock-knock jokes.
3) I’m happiest when you and I __________________
4) Thank you for helping me.
5) You fascinate me with your ___________________
6) I know I can always count on you.
7) That ________________ on you is so sexy on you.
This is the phrase people use to describe the pros and cons list you create to decide if someone is right for you. We’ve all done it. You take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On one side you write down all the reasons why you love him and on the other side you write down all the reasons you shouldn’t love him.
Ross did this in an episode of Friends. You know the one where Rachel sees the list and then breaks up with him for one of the many times.
Anyway, a friend of mine just completed hers and darn it, I just have to share. It’s damn funny.
| I Love Him |
I Love Him Not |
| He will hold my hand |
He always wants to spoon |
| He likes the same movies as me |
He cries at movies even I don’t cry during |
| He is an excellent cook |
He chews with his mouth open LOUDLY |
| His family is very sweet |
He talks bad about his grandmother; says she stinks |
| He rubs my feet |
He sucks on my toes |
Last winter a very close friend of mine named Abbie met a doctor online. He was perfect on paper, or should I say on computer screen. They were the same age, he was smart (obviously), he had a nicely written profile, and his pictures were cute.
After a couple of brief phone conversations they decided to meet at a popular bar after work. Immediately, Abbie was attracted. Not only was she on a date with a doctor, but he was hot.
Then he opened his mouth. Apparently he was more impressed with the fact that he was a doctor than she was. It’s all he could talk about. After 45 minutes Abbie was bored and thirsty. He was too busy thinking of more things he could say about himself to notice that she didn’t have a drink.
Finally, she grabbed her purse and motioned that she was going to the bar for a beverage. He says, “Yeah, vodka tonic for me. When you get back I’ll tell you about my 4:45 consult today. And you can put it all on my tab? It’s under Dr. Die.”
“Dr. Die,” she exclaimed! “Your name is Doctor Die. That’s not real. Really?”
It was real and she could not get over his name or her boredom. Her doctor dating adventure only lasted 58 minutes, but she’s glad she lived to tell the story.
