Online Dating Advice

Does any of this sound familiar?

“All the guys seem the same.”
“The phone conversation was awkward. I couldn’t wait to get off the phone.”
“I just don’t feel a spark. I’m tired of sending boring e-mails.”

Find more people online that you actually like by following this online dating advice.

Online Dating Advice – It’s the Law of Large Numbers
A good piece of online dating advice is to send out dozens of e-mails and go on just as many dates. Sure there will be a few rotten apples in the bunch, but you increase your chances of finding that gem.

Now this piece of online dating advice is not about spamming Match.com with unnecessary winks or sending the same e-mail over and over (see list of 50 Online Dating Tips for more online dating tips like these), but we are saying you should take a step back and contact someone you might not have considered.

Use the advanced search function with three different criteria, like location, age, and interest in kickball, for example. Based on those results, send an e-mail to people you think look cute and ask a question about their kickball team.

At this point you shouldn’t be looking for your prince. Just open the door for a few e-mails and phone calls. If there’s a spark you’ll know it pretty quick, and if there is no spark, then it’s on to the next; no harm done.

Online Dating Advice – Research Other Social Networks
Before we get too far on this piece of online dating advice – DON’T STALK. It’s okay to look at someone’s Facebook page or LinkedIn account, but I’d strongly advise against connecting on those sites. If your date(s) doesn’t go well, then you’ve opened yourself up to random communications with this person. You might regret it later.

However, a simple Google search or a browse of social networks will give you some insight into who this person might be. You’ll see more photos and you can see who their friends and colleagues are (you know the old saying “you are the company you keep”).

Online Dating Advice – Ask 20 Questions on the Phone
Think of the first few phone calls like a job interview. You wouldn’t take just any old job and you shouldn’t go on just any old date either.

Here are a few sample questions to ask:

1 – You said you’ve never traveled outside the United States. Would you ever consider going to Europe?

2 – I know I already asked you about your job in an e-mail, but tell me again what you do?

3 – Have you been on Yahoo! Personals for long? What do you think of it so far?

This gives you the idea. You’re not interrogating someone, but you are digging around for clues.
There’s no avoiding the occasional awkward date (just laugh at the funny dating stories), but you can increase your chances of finding someone you want to date (maybe even more than once).

For more online dating advice, see the pages devoted to Online Dating Tricks and Online Dating Mistakes. Or, if you are looking to spice up your online dating profile, sign up for the Dating Tales professional online dating profile writing service.

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