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Maybe it’s a first date, maybe he’s your “Jim” at work. (You know, The Office). Whoever he is, you don’t have to come right out and say you like him; you can just hint at it with these five flirty tricks.

1. Laugh at his jokes. Maybe even touch his harm a little as you throw your head back in hysterical laughter. Kidding about the hysterical laughter part, but not about the occasional touch.

2. Make it obvious you’re looking at his body. Don’t be pervy about it by scanning him up and down, but rather glance. Unlike women, men enjoy being checked out.

3. Don’t forget that body language can be incredibly effective in telling someone you like them. Remember how his knees say they like you? Yours knees can say that too.

4. Ask a lot of questions. There’s no better way to tell someone you’re interested than by asking lots of questions. Don’t get too personal, but don’t be too vague either. Questions such as “Why did you like the movie?” and “What’s your dream job?” will yield more interesting results than “What’s your favorite movie?” and “What do you do?”

5. Tell him you’re impressed by something he says or does. The best dating compliments will go a long way.

It’s true. Vacation sex is better than at-home sex.

The simple reason for better vacation sex: Because you are someone else when you are somewhere else, because you are able to leave all your every day garbage behind.

The complicated reason: The part of your brain that is associated with stress is also associated with your orgasm. No joke.

When you are worried, preoccupied, nervous, etc. your sex drive goes into decline. A small sex drive and a stressful weight on your chest means you’re less likely to have an orgasm.

On the other hand, when you are on vacation you manage to leave a lot of that behind you. The vacation version of you is eating good food, soaking up the sunshine, doing your favorite activities, spending time with someone you love, or meeting new people that make your heart go pitter patter. All of these activities make you feel more confident and more energetic.

When you are happy your brain releases dopamine, which is a hormone that leaves you feeling a bit euphoric. Add the dopamine on top of your stress-free mind and body, and you have one rockin’ night of sex.

There are, of course, a few more reasons why vacation sex is better and more frequent. For example, you don’t have to set your alarm or go to work. And then top that off with the fact that you are probably drunk.

Here’s to vacation sex. I hope you get to have some soon.

You can never underestimate the power of a little self-help guidance.  Here are three books I highly recommend to improve your dating life. I know they’re not all “dating” specific, but sometimes the underlying problem in your love life doesn’t have anything to do with your love life after all.

If you’re up for re-evaluating your diet and lifestyle, you’ll be surprised to find some answers here: The UltraMind Solution: Fix Your Broken Brain by Healing Your Body First

No doubt she’s over-the-top and kind of annoying. But Patti Stanger is popular for a reason. Her book is directed to women, but helpful insight for men: Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate

This book title does not contain a typo. It really does say “but”: Get Off Your “But”: How to End Self-Sabotage and Stand Up for Yourself

No, the revolution is not for husbands. It’s for wives of high-maintenance husbands.

In another one of my writing lives I’m working to develop content for a high-maintenance husband blog by way of my high-maintenance husband Squidoo lens and my high-maintenance hubbie Twitter profile.

Throughout this process I’ve examined the habits of metrosexuals turned high-maintenance husbands to analyze how a wife is supposed to deal with such an offender. This revolution is about understanding these men, letting them be themselves without going crazy ourselves, and of course, laughing at them. In addition to dashes of humor, there will be insights into relationships too, because that’s what I do.

I’d love to hear from other wives and girlfriends of high-maintenance men to add to this growing collection of humor. If your boyfriend or hubbie drives you a little nuts, but you love him anyway, leave a comment or shoot me an email at sara at datingtales dot net to let me know.

A recent article on CNN.com talked about how Kenyan women are withholding sex in order to motivate political change.

The coalition government in Kenya has become increasingly divided after the 2008 election. Since that time, little has been done to resolve major issues in the country, yet more bickering is taking place among the higher-ups over non-critical issues. Some activists feel this is a woman’s issue because it is mostly woman’s causes that are suffering the most.  To bring attention, they are asking woman– even sex workers — to withhold sex.

The organization G-10, which is an umbrella organization for various women’s agencies including the Centers for Rights Education and Awareness and the Federation of Women Lawyers in Kenya, organized the “sex-out.” Spokespeople from a number of groups have said that while this type of activism is a little funny, it will at least get the point across.

Ever had a breakup last weeks? Have you ever gotten back together with an ex more than three of four times?

Well if you haven’t, then you probably know someone who is notorious for dragging relationships on and on. Turns out, I am one of those people.

For close to three years I managed to date the same two guys over and over again. I’d break up with one, then get back together with the other. That relationship would fizzle and then I’d find myself talking to the other one again.

And on, and on, and on, and on.

Turns out neither one of these guys were “the one,” and after some major drama and putting thousands of miles on my car, I managed to put them both behind me. But not without learning some serious lessons first.

As part of my incessant need to impart my dating wisdom on you, here are seven tips on how to make your break up stick. And yes, they are listed in order of importance.

1 – Don’t agree to “just be friends.” Just don’t.

2 – If you run in the same circles (i.e., same job, clique, neighborhood, kickball team, etc), don’t drink together. I’m talking absolutely no alcohol at all. It might seem harmless to have one beer at your office party, but one beer leads to a shot to car bombs,  and then the next thing you know you’re sitting on his lap in the back of a cab on the way to the next bar…not that this has happened to me before or anything.

3 – Go into your email contacts and change his name to “Do Not Read.”

4 – Do not delete his number from your phone. Repeat, don’t delete him. Instead, change his name to “Do Not Answer.” If this doesn’t stop you from calling him or picking up his call, change his entry once again to read: “Sexually Transmitted Disease.”

5 -You’re no longer friends on Facebook, MySpace, LinkedIn, Twitter, and any other social network you are a member of. I’m serious about this, no exceptions.

6 – Sit down and write him a long letter that says everything you’ve ever wanted to say to him plus everything you have already said to him. The next night, sit down and write a list of the top 10 things you don’t like about him. Now, take both pieces of paper and rip them up and throw it all away. Don’t give them to him, he doesn’t need to see it. This is your closure.

7 – Fill your days and nights with distraction. Train for a marathon, join a book club, take a class, get a part-time job, write your memoirs, try speed dating. Do everything you can think of to keep your mind occupied.

Don’t waste years on someone you aren’t meant to be with. Sure, you’re passing the time, but while you’re “passing time” the right guy is out there not knowing you’re available.

For a time I thought everyone cheated in relationships. I didn’t think this because I grew up watching my parental figures move around in relationships (my parents are still married) and not because I am a cheater myself (never cheated, nope).

I thought everyone cheated because infidelity is so prevalent in pop culture. I mean, what happens in Hollywood is happening in real life, right?

Another reason I was convinced everyone cheated is because of the dozens of horrible stories I’ve heard from friends who have described their pain over cheating husbands, girlfriends, etc. I guess I didn’t stop to consider the fact that I’ve heard more happy love stories than not-so-happy love stories.

Moral of the story: I believed in some certifiable cheating-spouse hype.

It actually turns out that most people don’t cheat. I don’t think the “real” number of cheaters can be known, but according to a US News and World Report article, the percentage of cheating spouses is actually somewhere between 11% and 18%.

So what do you think?

Not for every one and not all the time, but some times we do cry after orgasms. The tears I describe are not necessarily tears of sadness, although I know that happens too.

What I’m talking about is the totally unexpected cry that surprises you and your partner after a nice romp.

These tears are a consequence of the hormone oxytocin, which is released from pituitary glands after an orgasm. Oxytocin is released in smaller amounts after other forms of human touch, such as a hug and breast feeding (for women, obviously).  Oxytocin sends a rush of warm, positive emotions throughout the body making you feel very relaxed, even sleepy.

Oxytocin is a feel-good hormone that could give you a sense of euphoria and a desire for more human touch. This is why so many of us want to cuddle or fall asleep after sex.

Euphoria is a joyful feeling, which is what sometimes sparks the tears. You feel comfortable, you feel close to your partner, and you just feel so darn happy that before you know it the waterworks show has started.

Don’t fight it. Just enjoy the rush and have a good cry.