It’s all so complicated and quite frankly, I’m not sure I’m a fan. I went took a trip online to the Urban Dictionary for a definition. Here are the two definitions offered (by the way, you can go there and vote for which one you like better)

1 – One person’s romantic pursuit of another, oftentimes not fueled by actual desire for a relationship. i.e., He is very romantic at first, but he is only interested in the chase.

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I thought everyone cheated because infidelity is so prevalent in pop culture. I mean, what happens in Hollywood is happening in real life, right?

Another reason I was convinced everyone cheated is because of the dozens of horrible stories I’ve heard from friends who have described their pain over cheating husbands, girlfriends, etc. I guess I didn’t stop to consider the fact that I’ve heard more happy love stories than not-so-happy love stories.

Moral of the story: I believed in some certifiable cheating-spouse hype.

It actually turns out that most people don’t cheat. I don’t think the “real” number of cheaters can be known, but according to a US News and World Report article, the percentage of cheating spouses is actually somewhere between 11% and 18%.

So what do you think?

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Chances are you have. I think I’ve done that at least six times. Here’s the scenario…

You meet a guy in a bar when your beer goggles are in full effect. On top of the blurred vision, there is a lot going on to distract you like your best friend making out with the bartender, for example.

With all of these factors you willingly give out your phone number, which is great, until the next day when he calls and you can’t remember if he had blond hair, black hair, if he wore glasses, or if he was short.

You decide to call him back and make a go of it. He’s nice, he gets you to laugh, and his text messages are sweet. He asks you out on a date and you feel compelled to go, but then at the last minute you bail because you know you can’t pick him out of crowd.

Is this the right thing to do? Take our poll and tell us if this is what you would do in that scenario.

Do you have a blind date story you’d like to share? Send us your tales and we’ll post it here on Dating Tales.

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Here’s her dilemma:

Hey guys, I am in serious need of advice. I am dating a doctor, and YES he is CUTE and adorable. To be honest he is everything i have ever wanted in a man.

Unfortunately, I love attention a bit too much. He is always busy. Our conversations are always rushed, he’s always on call or preparing for a presentation. I am very patient but lately I have been having major tantrums.

The thought of turning up to weddings and engagement parties on my own is daunting. It makes me sad coz i love him and miss him so much.

NOW does this mean he doesnt care? Can he turn down a call to spend time with me or am i being totally unreasonable? Just how busy are doctors? When we do meet up all he talks about is presentations and exams.

I hate meeting up with my friends who have boyfriends coz mine is never there HELP

Here are my two cents. Repeat after me: Dating a doctor is like dating a workaholic slash egomaniac. He’s not going to change, nor should he. He worked his butt off to get where he is and I’m guessing that he has so much invested in his career that very little will interfere with that.

Yes, doctors really are that busy and I’m sure he could turn down a call from time to time, but he probably doesn’t feel like it’s the right thing to do.

In a way, it’s admirable. I mean, I don’t have anything in my life that I would drop everything for.

On the other hand, I completely know how you feel. It really stinks to be lonely when you are not alone. I’ve been in relationships where I went alone to parties and spent half my night explaining why he wasn’t with me. It sucks. No one likes it.

My advice to you is to be honest with yourself about what you need. If what you need is lots of one-on-one time and a constant date to any social function, then dating a doctor is probably not for you. But if you can be patient with him and confident enough to go out on your own, then he’s worth it.

Alright, now it’s time for everyone else to vote on it.  Are doctors really that busy?

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What do you think?

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And if you’re interested in finding a double date, believe it or not there are online dating services devoted to the topic. They really do think of everything, don’t they?

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For me, this inquiry was recently brought up after a friend and I discussed an awkward date with a very cheap man. You actually know part of this “missed connection” story because I told it in my “Women Picking Up Men, It’s a Beautiful Thing” post.

The good news is that my friend did go on a date with the cute boy from Craigslist, but the bad news is that he was weird about the bill. So weird, in fact, that she won’t go out with him again.

The story goes like this: At the end of the date she went for her credit card expecting him to say, “No, no. I got it.” When he didn’t say anything she was still OK with paying half because in her mind that was perfectly fair anyway.

But things got weird when he started adding up what was hers (1 beer and 1 burger) and what was his (1 burger). After totaling his amount owed, he opened up his wallet for her to see that there were at least 10, very crisp, twenty dollar bills inside. To make matters worse, he left a $1 tip.

The feminist in me says that women should be willing to pay for half or all of the bill, but then the traditionalist in me says that I should be wined and dined. What do you think? Answer the poll and leave your comments with your ideas. It’s time we settle this issue once and for all.

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Proponent or Opponent of the Chase?

Start Date: May 14, 2009 @ 10:46 am
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Does everyone cheat?

Start Date: April 25, 2009 @ 4:14 pm
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Do you bail when you can't remember what your date looks like?

Start Date: January 26, 2009 @ 2:58 pm
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How busy are doctors, really?

Start Date: November 11, 2008 @ 6:44 am
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Is proposing through Google clever?

Start Date: August 19, 2008 @ 7:27 am
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