Yes, it is okay to have your online profile professionally written. I feel strongly about this. So strongly that I even provide an online dating profile writing service for any online dater who needs a little help.
If writing isn’t your strength, then there is no harm in asking for a little help.
There is a caveat here, though. While it is okay to have someone write your profile, the information presented in that profile still needs to represent you fairly. Every paragraph, every sentence, and every piece of a list within your profile needs to be true and should be written to match your personality.
Even with a professional writing service you have to work with the writer to develop something that fits who you are and the person you are looking to date. If your profile doesn’t represent you fairly, then yeah, I guess having your dating profile written by someone else isn’t ethical.
So, if you have someone write your profile, complete their questionnaire truthfully and provide as much insight into who you are as possible. Also, don’t be afraid to ask for revisions. If you don’t like the first draft of what they wrote, then offer suggestions for improvement.
The E-mail Writing Debate
On countless occasions I have been asked to write e-mails or help clients write an e-mail to someone they’ve met online. Unfortunately, I have to draw a line here. While I want to help beyond just the profile writing, I think this is a little too Roxanne. (Remember that movie?)
A writer can help you present the best version of you, but they can’t pretend to be you. Especially by holding conversations either online or off. The person you are introducing yourself to and getting to know, needs to know all thoughts are yours, not concocted by someone else.
I do offer an alternative though. See my previous blog posts about online icebreakers and sample online dating e-mails to get ideas for e-mail topics.
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