Finally. A book that doesn’t just talk about the silly things girls do to chase away guys. Why He Didn’t Call You Back: 1,000 Guys Reveal What They Really Thought About You After Your Date
Greenwald took a business approach to researching for this book. According to the publisher, Greenwald, with her Harvard MBA business savvy, conducted “Exit Interviews” with 1,000 men, asking them why they hadn’t called back after a date or online flirtation.
Here are a three parts from the book that really hit home for me:
- Chapter 3 really gets into the crux of the interviews and lists the top reasons why men don’t go for that second date. The third reason the author refers to as the “Bait and Switch.” Basically this means that men perceived the woman to be one way, but then after they met for that date he realized she was something else. This is more than just having a picture on your dating profile that doesn’t look like you. It’s about unrealistic expectations. Greenwald writes: “Sell, but don’t oversell yourself up front. Regardless of your looks or personality, you’ll have a greater chance for a second date if you are a little better, rather than a little worse, than what he expected.”
- I guess my dad was right: you are the company you keep. Reason #13 he didn’t call you back: “The comments, behavior, and beliefs of your friends and family become synonymous with yours before he really knows you.”
- In Chapter 5 Greenwald lists a few of the outtakes from her interviews. She didn’t consider these snippets scientific data by any means, but she did think the reasons some men did not call for that second date were hilarious and so she kept them in the book. I’m so glad she did because this really was the best part for me. Here is my favorite: “I heard her pee while she was talking to me on the phone.”
Hopefully this gives you a taste for the book, Why He Didn’t Call You Back. I recommend the read for those dating and even for those that aren’t. I think it offers nice insights into the minds of men and women in general.
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