A Dating Tales reader was kind enough to write in after reading a couple of my other posts on what to write in a message when dating online. Like a lot of online daters, he is unsure about what to say in an initial e-mail and even what to say in a follow up e-mail to a girl he’s interested in.
Below are the seven common statements he has found in online profiles along with my suggestions on how to use these statements as conversation starters in an e-mail.
These are only ideas for online dating icebreakers. Whatever you choose to say in an e-mail, always be respectful and be sure to ask lots of questions … people like to talk about themselves.
She loves to be with their kids. As she should.
Do you have kids? Talk about them.
Better yet, ask questions about her kids and then mention a couple of kid-friendly activities you’ve heard are great. Don’t expect to meet the kids and definitely don’t expect to spend time with them, but let it be known that you are open to having children around.
She loves to dance. Here’s a great clue to what your first date should be. Suggest some dancing spots that you like or would like to try.
Are you a horrible dancer? Tell her you’re open to dance lessons or a few personal lessons if it ever comes to that.
Family and friends are important to her. Share a few stories about your own family and friends. Describe them and explain why they are important to you.
Be sure to ask questions about the people in her life too, and go beyond just asking: “How many brothers and sisters to you have?”
She’s tired of games. Maybe hit her back with something a little ironic. Ask her if she’s totally over Monopoly, Scrabble, and Solitaire.
Okay, maybe not.
If you agree and aren’t into game playing yourself, then tell you are also tired of it and that you do your best to A) always call when you say you will, B) just straight up tell someone when you are interested in them, and C) Follow the golden rule (treat others how you want to be treated).
She loves to laugh. This one’s easy. Make her laugh! Funny jokes, one-liners from movies, a witty comment about her profile, i.e., You remind me of a time back in 87′ …
She goes to school for nursing/ paralegal/ degree in whatever. This leads you to a perfect opener in an e-mail. Ask for details about her schooling. Why did you choose this path? What class do you like best? Where do you hope to work one day? I’ve always been interested in BLANK too.
She enjoys music, shopping, and traveling.
Tell her about your favorite tunes and then ask her to recommend music to you.
Maybe you don’t like to shop, but there has to be one thing you have a weakness for and buy often. Tell her about it.
Do you travel? Do you want to travel? Tell her about it and ask her about her top five destinations. Where does she want to visit the most?
If this list was helpful to you, buy me a beer to say thanks. Or, if you have other questions about e-mailing in online dating, contact Dating Tales.
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