I’m not sure if you’ve read my post, Dating a Doctor – Pros and Cons lately, but there are quite a few ladies over there venting their frustrations over dating a doctor.
These same ladies talk quite a bit about how much they love their doctors too. Here’s a sample:
“Well ladies, as someone that has been in a dating merry-go-round, I also wonder the same thing, ‘Is he really telling me the truth? Is he really that busy?’
Unfortunately by reading all these postings, none of us really will know, but one thing we all agree is that these men are wonderful when they are there!!!”
In talking to a few of my friends about this very same topic, we daydreamed a little bit about dating a doctor and how to do it exactly. Here’s how the conversation went.
Friend 1: I think dating a doctor would be awesome. I have a neighbor who is married to a gyno and she gets an ultra sound every other day. That is so cool.
Friend 2: I think dating a doctor would be fine as long as you had a lot of friends to keep you busy. And when you did see him he made sure to make you feel loved and like a woman.
Friend 1: As long as he looked like McDreamy I wouldn’t care how many friends I had.
Friend 2: I wouldn’t want to be the housekeeper either.
Me: I would just want lots of presents.
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I’ll take McDreamy!
And who wouldn’t. Look at that hair!
I have been dating a doctor for about a year now. An ER doctor at that which means weekends and nights are his busiest times. Then he teaches too. Talk about complicated schedules! I work and am in graudate school so I stay pretty busy, but there are times when I just plain miss being with him. When we are together he makes me feel special and happy. He is truly very loving and sweet. It has certainly taken a lot of trust and patience to get through a few rough spots, but all in all, he is everything I have ever wanted in a partner. I love him and would never get in the way of his work. But I also want to plan for a future with him.
I’ve been dating a cardiologist for 2.5 years now.
His schedule is craziness. I appreciate the time he
does give me because he makes time when he
can. He tells me his schedule and its a sacrifice
being his girLfriend but it’s worth it because he is
the most wonderful man I’ve ever be friends with
and now his girlfriend. The biggest thing you have
to realize is that you have to be grateful for the
relationship. If your relationship is with the man
that makes your toes curL, like mine, then don’t
give up and be patient They have a Life that we
don’t even begin to know how to handle unless we
work in the medical field as well. If you can’t take
their crazy schedule then dating a doctor is not
going to work but if you are dating the man that
makes you happier then don’t let go!
~T~ you are so right, it’s hard but wonderful, I’ve been seeing my doc for almost 1 yr, mine is a plastic surgeon with a 30 yr practice so time is very difficult….. Up side, is I get everything I want done and this is the only time I see him almost daily, during my follow-up, down side-NON, he is worth waiting for… I’m an interior designer with my own business my clients are usually architects with very large project, I have designed some very exclusive building and $20 and $30 million $$ homes, I have been doing this for 23 yrs, so we are both very engrossed in our career, but it is a challenge…HE SURE AS HE’LL MAKES MY TOES CURL!!!!>>>LOL Lila
Tia – sounds like you both have very time consuming careers and that you appreciate the relationship. Good for you! Sometimes we get so wrapped up in what we don’t have we don’t take the time to see what the good things we have in our life – including the amazing man in our life who happens to be a doctor. The cardiologist I am seeing has been doing this for 28 yrs and is on board of directors for the hospital as well as another company who staffs temporary medical staff. He also sings barbershop and has a daughter he has half of week, so his schedule is not an easy one even for him. My schedule is crazy too but we seem to make time in between so I value each and every minute of what we spend together and I let him know that in every possible way and he appreciates it. No one else has ever appreciated him and his time like I do and he appreciates that about me. Never take anyone or anything for granted – ALWAYS be grateful what who and what you have! I love my man more than he might ever realize but at least I can show it to him when we spend our quality time together.
~T~ You sound like a VERY TOGEATHER lady!!!, I agree, these men have a life that is hard to imagine and on a personal level, I COULD NOT WORK LIKE THAT FOR ALL MY LIFE!! So I take my hat off to people that choose to devote thier life to thier studies and career.. I love my man very much, he loves me, on every e-mail theres a Luv Ya! from him, and for him that is a BIG TIME show of emotion ???
I really feel for young ladies getting married to men that are married to thier careers, raising the kids alone, ballet, soccer, base ball little leage always along, dinners alone.. That has to be hard, but where I am in my life, he is PERFECT, and I also appreciate his time and companionship.. I make him laugh, we play games, kid around with each other like school kids even on text and e-mail.. I love making him smile because I know he needs it so much, much more than I… Good luck ~T~!!!! Lila!
Lila,
Thank you for the nice compliment! I do try to think positive about as much as possible. It only benefits you and everyone around you!
Has your man ever been married before? Mine has and his first wife enjoyed spending his money but couldn’t handle the time he took for his career and singing. You can’t have it both ways. I know that he could have any woman he wants just because of his status and that makes me love him that much more. I agree that spending time along is not fun but you have to make sacrifies in every relationship, just different areas sometimes. Sounds like you are having fun as well as good quality time. Good for you! I do the same thing with my man. He has to have some release time no matter if its a laugh or just to relax.
Thank you for your posts. I enjoy getting to talk to someone who understands and views it as a priviledge to have such an educated & talented man in our lives!
~T~
I am so happy I found this website. My bf for a little over a year is a well-accomplished dr. I guess I can say we were destined to meet ~ Over ten years ago, he saved my life. But we were not supposed to meet then because we were both in relationships. As fate would have it we both met up again when we were both single through a mutual friend. We could not believe all the times we were invited to same events and never met up until “the right moment.” He is 14 years older but in great physical shape for his age. All his closest friends are single and always looking for “the perfect girl” and though they seemed to think highly of me, I wonder sometimes if my bf and his well off friends plan on being single guys forever?… When my bf wanted to go out with me, I made it a point to say the kind of relationship I was expecting to have and he said that it was what he wanted. He was very patient and waited until it felt right for us to be together. We even took trips together w/o being intimate and he respected that about me. He said he never had a relationship like ours. Still, I sometimes get a little insecure for no valid reason but simply because we are somewhat different in lifestyles. Reading this website I realize how difficult it is to truly understand how busy their lives as Drs are. I thought his love had faded, despite the fact he has included me in all his family gatherings, special events, trips, etc. ~ it just seemed lately, he was more comfortable w our relationship and rarely texts endearing or flirtatious msgs as he did when courting me. I too feel a bit alone, yet when he is with me I do feel him closer than he had ever been before. I love how we hold hands and sleeping in his arms. I love when he sleeps smelling my neck and when he moans at my touch. I was so confused about his love … I googled “how to date a dr” and found this website. I don’t even know why or how I ended up writting here.. Just figured I could express my doubts and fears with the hope that I might make someone confused like me realize that it is normal to feel this way because their lives are very stressful. I pray that if he and I are meant to be … I learn to be the most understanding, loving and positive woman he has ever known!
Snow,
What kind of doctor are you dating?
~T~
Snow – Thanks so much for visiting and for leaving your comments. This is a great place to vent and to just tell us how happy you are with your BF — no harm in either of those things.
T and Lila — Same goes for you ladies too! Thanks for reading and for sharing.
Happy Dating!
Sara, it’s refreshing to have a mutual place to vent and share stories that normally NOBODY would understand unless they are the girl of a doc……LOL
~T~ My doc and I share time, but not quality time, it;s the time he can give plain and simple!! From the beginning he asked me to understand his demands, and not until recently has our relationship taken a different turn, more emotional, he is very insecure about relationships (body language, not verbal admittance), I guess his limited time has made him lose out on relationships… Yes he was married, so was I, he is in his late 50’s and I’m in my late 40’s, kids are grown and gone to college for the both of us, so it’ a about us… I also feel that at this stage in my life, I can understand a man like him, possibly the younger me might not have been as understanding, but age is a good mellower!!!
Ladies, it’s all about finding LOVE! for one-self and with a companion, but first LOVE #1 (YOU) and all will fall into place by itself…. My doc is giving me a face lift on Friday, he’s a very prominent Plastic Surgeon, he’s already given me a boob job, tommy tuck, lipo, (I already had all this before, he just did not like the results and did it again) LOL I think it was he did not like that it was some other doc’s work!!! and now a mini-face lift….I am NEW and he loves it!!! SO DO I!!!! We met at Starbucks I thought he was just a flirting jerk….OMG was I WRONG!!!!!….Take care Lila
Indeed I am so glad that I found this website as well. I could talk about my man 24/7 if someone allowed me to.
Its always nice to talk to others that understand what you are going thru when you miss your man but you love him more than anything else in your life. The little things he does to show his affection just makes me smile all over. You appreciate the things they do and it makes up for the time you may not have like a normal relationship.
To all those posting – thank you! I appreciate your comments and your life stories of your doctor McDreamys.
am in love with a doctor and I love him more than myself. But I only show that fact 90% of the time. hahaha I enjoy forming my life around his…I love being his helper in anything and doing anything to please him. His happiness is my happiness. When I see anything that has to do with him, it takes my breath away. He pushes me to be my best, and give my best. He is the love I waited for my whole life, all I was, am and ever wll be, seems to be custom made for him. I connect with some things you say. For every 15 text notes I send him he gives me I get 1 back. This is who he is -and who I am. He’s quiet and I’m not. He calls me his mirror…he finds himself in me. I find myself in him. He’s a young surgeon and the worst thing about him is that every girl wants him. and I’m extremely jealous.I heard that doctors sometimes have 3 or more girlfriends at once, using on call as a secure out. is this true ?
Okay, this is the second time I’ve checked out this site and so now I feel like I have to say something. I met my doctor over 2 years a go but at the time I was already in a relationship and wanted to stick with it and make it work. After breaking up with my ex, something in my head said call the dr. I remember how we always had such great conversation so I said what the heck and gave him a call. Much to my surprise he answered and we talked for hours, he explained to me that he no longer lived in the same state as I but he’s currently finishing up his first year of residency. So , anyhew he told me he was actually going to be coming to town for a short while and he wanted to see me… well he came it was wonderfl and by the time it was time for him to leave he told me that he definitely wanted to see me again and that he was going to be sending me his schedule, he wanted me to pick out a date to fly out and see him. So, he did i picked the date flew out and I must say the time we spent together was awesome , the chemistry was UNBELIEVABLE, conversation was the bomb digity!! and everything felt sooo right I cant describe it any other way. So while i was there which was only the weekend, I was so shocked to find that he had planned the entire day it was great… I was a little disappointed at the upkeep of the place but after awaking early the next morning i found myself scrubing the bathroom, sweeping the floor to where i felt it was sanitary…Question.. is that something im gonna have to get used too? Since my trip we have been late night talking/emailing/texting like crazy (including 2 hr time difference)I miss him already and I know that the distance is gonna make it even worse and be a possible struggle. We’ve already planned for my return and he wants to plan for my return after that… I truely have feelings for this guy and I want to know how best to be a good support system for him. Things are moving very quickly but they feel right….
Kally – the best advice I can give you is to just be supportive of his schedule and life like you would any man but realize that because he is a doctor his schedule is not like most. Given that he is finishing up his residency his schedule will continue to get crazier as he gets into a practice full time. Knowing he has a supportive girlfriend, he will want to keep you around because not everyone can handle the crazy schedule of a doctor. Be grateful for the relationship and having him in your life and keep that as the focus and everything else will work out! Best wishes!
I hope someone can give me some advice about this. I have been dating a Doctor for the past 6 months. He is great and, when we are together we always have a great time. But after that I don’t know about him at all until he calls me. He said he doesn’t like to talk to much on the phone or text. He is a surgeon and he is always busy and on call. He is kind of new in this city so we do not have a lots friend. We have not friends in common. I meet him on a dating site and a few days ago found out his profile still there. He even has new pictures. Lately he forgets to call me back. Last week was my birthday, he text me to say happy birthday and then invited me for dinner. So since Thursday I don’t know anything about him. I have called him on Saturday but he did not return my call. Mmmmmmmm what should I do? People tell me millions of things and I am so confused about everything.
I can’t believe any of these fine ladies don’t have words of advice for you Lulu! Where’d everybody go?
It’s tough to say what you should do since only you know what kind of person he is. I think I’m a cynic because I say that if it doesn’t come easy (or at least relatively easy), then it’s not worth your time. There are plenty of men out there that would love spend time with you so why waste time waiting for this one?
Lulu – if he “forgets” to call you or text you – move on and chalk it up to having another friend in your life. Just casually call or text him every once in a while but it doesn’t sound like he is that interested or he is mature in relationships/friendships. Love yourself enough to say you are worth getting to know and don’t settle for anything less than that! Wish you success!
I totally believe that every relationship is some work because none of us are perfect but it shouldn’t be all one sided. Dating a doctor is not your normal relationship but they are human too and have feelings just like us. Just be true to yourself and everything else will fall into place.
I’m communicating with a Doctor online. She seems great, but I feel as though she’s ‘out of my league’ because I am on a low paid job, and she’s a wonderful Doctor. I am also quite shy [in a way] and she’s very confident.
I’d still love to be her partner and willing to fall inlove no matter what hours she works.
Does anyone here at face value think I’m day-dreaming and flogging a dead horse?
One thing I can tell you is that you need to value yourself as someone that is worth getting to know regardless who you decide to venture into a relationship with. Only then will you have a successful relationship. Remember, as a doctor they typically have a lot of choices just because of their status but the fact that she wants to get to know you is brownie points.
Any relationship is work but having a relationship with someone who is a doctor requires even more work because of their demanding lifestye. If you are up for the challenge then go for it!
Hope it works for you!
Thanks T. You make a good point. I am just getting to know this lady, so I have some time to show my value. I’m not attracted to her being a Doctor, I am attracted to her being intelligent and caring [and gorgeous.] I had no idea that she was a Doctor when I first started chatting to her. I have to admit that I am a little intimidated by her being a wealthy person, and I am not. I don’t mind not being wealthy, but I guess I need a lot of money to ‘entertain.’ This too is something I can figure out over time.
As far as entertaining – you know what? When you want to spend time together you find some of the best things are free! Take a walk, go to the park, just sit and talk on the couch. Its the person you are getting to know – you shouldn’t have to “shower” her with money. She already has that – all she needs now is you!
Thank you T.
I normally wouldn’t touch sites like this with a barge-poll, but I’ve come here, read some wonderful advice and been given some wonderful advice and encouragement and I did not even have to register or pay a penny.
I do feel really good about this lady.
I’m glad you have this website. I am 44 divorced once and found a single dad on line who turned out to be a doctor. He has been divorced 2x. He has three kids. He is always busy with kids or work. I have never spent so little time with someone that I am dating. Only time will tell. Time spent with him is on his terms. He is just not that into me…or he is really busy.