What to Write in a Message for the First Time

by Sara on February 19, 2009

A Dating Tales reader recently sent in a question about how to approach girls online. For the sake of anonymity, we’ll just call this faithful reader Rusty.

Here’s Rusty’s request for advice…

“When I have my chance to send a girl a message for the first time, I don’t know what to say. I want to say something nice, but don’t know what to write. I NEED advice.”

This is a common concern and one that I think people should take more seriously. When you send that first message through a single site the tone of the message needs to be friendly, but more importantly it needs to be unique.

Just like in online profile writing, you need to catch that special someone’s attention by not sounding like everyone else.

There are a few other Dating Tales posts about proper e-mail introductions in online dating, but just for you Rusty, I thought I’d throw a couple more ideas out there.

E-mail introduction example#1 - “Hey, I came across your profile and it seems we have a lot in common; especially our interests in travel. Can you tell me more about your trip to Europe? Where did you go?”

E-mail introduction example #2 - “You’ve got cute pics. I like your style. Got any tips for a hopelessly bad dresser?” … Then send her a picture of you in your Halloween costume.

Do need online dating advice? Contact Sara, the author of DatingTales.net, for tips and advice on how you can find the right person online.

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