A Dating Tales reader stopped by to talk about her doctor dating woes, and she wants our advice.
Here’s her dilemma:
Hey guys, I am in serious need of advice. I am dating a doctor, and YES he is CUTE and adorable. To be honest he is everything i have ever wanted in a man.
Unfortunately, I love attention a bit too much. He is always busy. Our conversations are always rushed, he’s always on call or preparing for a presentation. I am very patient but lately I have been having major tantrums.
The thought of turning up to weddings and engagement parties on my own is daunting. It makes me sad coz i love him and miss him so much.
NOW does this mean he doesnt care? Can he turn down a call to spend time with me or am i being totally unreasonable? Just how busy are doctors? When we do meet up all he talks about is presentations and exams.
I hate meeting up with my friends who have boyfriends coz mine is never there 
HELP
Here are my two cents. Repeat after me: Dating a doctor is like dating a workaholic slash egomaniac. He’s not going to change, nor should he. He worked his butt off to get where he is and I’m guessing that he has so much invested in his career that very little will interfere with that.
Yes, doctors really are that busy and I’m sure he could turn down a call from time to time, but he probably doesn’t feel like it’s the right thing to do.
In a way, it’s admirable. I mean, I don’t have anything in my life that I would drop everything for.
On the other hand, I completely know how you feel. It really stinks to be lonely when you are not alone. I’ve been in relationships where I went alone to parties and spent half my night explaining why he wasn’t with me. It sucks. No one likes it.
My advice to you is to be honest with yourself about what you need. If what you need is lots of one-on-one time and a constant date to any social function, then dating a doctor is probably not for you. But if you can be patient with him and confident enough to go out on your own, then he’s worth it.
Alright, now it’s time for everyone else to vote on it. Are doctors really that busy?
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turn down a call shift? if only we could…comes with the territory, 1 every 4 days and 2 weekends a month…
Anonymous – You’re right it does go with the territory for most doctors. But for every doctor?
I dated a doctor two years ago but because of his long hours (60++) I was afraid to get too emotionally involve and decided to stop dating him. Even thought the chemistry between us is unbelievable (BIG MISTAKE). I started seeing someone else which got really serious, almost got married, but I couldn’t stop thinking about the doctor and our strong connection. I broke off the engagement and contacted him and it was like time stood still. Even thought he’s really busy, I now have a busy career as well and understanding, so it’s works for us now. I still miss him and wish we could spend more time together but I know he is following his dreams and he gives me the same respect to pursue mines. I dated other man and they always try to control me which is funny because it just proves to me that my doctor is for me. If it’s meant to be it will be, have patience and keep busy with your own goals and dreams. For me it was all about timing but I will stand by his side this time around you never know if you get a second chance. Thank God he give me one… It get easier with time…Best of Wishes!
I, too, am dating a doctor. Only he is 1 year out of med school. He is a plastic surgeon. We first starting only with phone calls, and instant messaging through out the day. We have been dating for only a month now. He is cute and adorable, funny, very intelligent. We have seen each only twice because of his busy schedule. I dont’ think we even went out on a real date yet let alone sleep together. Our conversations are very short and our get togethers very brief. We keep our relationship low key for now. Already I am starting to feel lonely and want to scream because I am dying to go on a real date, a night on the town with him. There are times where we talk only for brief seconds and that’s it until the next day. I feel frustrated. I want to email him cause he said he does check them through out the day. Will it hurt to email him and tell him how I feel about him and how supportive, understanding I am. He really likes me alot and we call each other sweety and babe, etc. lol. I just miss talking to him everynight and would like to see him more than just for a few hours during the week. I’m at my wits end! Any suggestions?
hey jennifer
I feel like you just mirror my relationship. i’m gonna hang in their just talk to him and let him know how you feel. Instead of putting demands on him ask him how he feels things are going with you two and if their is anything you can do to be more supportive. just show him your support and be a friend to him because in their field its hard to find the time to build relationships.
I told my Bf Dr how I felt. All I said was I am not demanding nor expect to see him often. I also said that of course I do miss seeing him and how supportive I am. I also told him that I like him a lot. And that I respect him and his life style as a physician. I told him I had to get that off my mind. This was all said while he was at work.(We chat via messenger.) He didn’t reply, just logged off. Now I’m worried I upset him. Did I say anything wrong?
Jen I am gonna be honest with you and tell you to back off. Give yourself some space. You need to put you 1st and focus on yourself. MEN DON’T RESPOND TO WORDS THEY RESPOND TO NO CONTACT, i.e ACTIONS. So let your actions do the talking and stay away. Let him chase you not you him and you’ll see. So hun focus on you be his friend but put yourself 1st please.
Hello I really loves theseblogs! Finally people who understand my pain lol QUESTION: How are Holidays w/ your docs? How do improvise and get creative in this area?
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