Aug 12th, 2008
Seven Ice-Breakers in Online Dating
Effectively approaching someone online is important. It is probably one of the most important steps in meeting someone online—second to having a well-written profile.
Think of it like this…you see someone across the room of a restaurant standing by the bar. She has a beautiful smile, gorgeous legs, and a nicely put together outfit. You notice that she’s been looking at you even making eye contact a few times.
You get up the courage to talk to her and excuse yourself from your table of friends. Walking right up to her you flash your pearly whites, put out your hand, and introduce yourself when she says:
“Do you mind stepping back? You just spit on my face.”
See what I mean? Don’t blow your chance at a first impression in online dating by saying something in an e-mail or online chat that is over the top or boring. Instead, be witty and thoughtful. If you have trouble coming up with your own conversation ideas, try these ice breakers.
1) If I were to write a book, the main character would be…
2) The best beach I have ever been to was…
3) If reincarnation is real, I hope to come back as a…
4) Today I saw a painting that reminded me of…
5) The one noise I wish I could mute from the world is…
6) If I had to eat the same thing for the rest of my life it would be…
7) I feel bad for my remote control because…
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Hmmm very interesting…so start an email with that? Or start a profile with that? Not that I’m interested in online dating or anything…
I think you can use these in either an email or a profile. Point is they are just good conversation starters.
Cool. I used to pick something interesting from their profile to comment on. Like my boyfriend now, he had “underwater basket weaving” listed as an interest. Obviously it was to get attention so anyway, I commented on that.
But, I noticed that a lot of the guys didn’t have something obvious to comment on. These would be good ideas to get the conversation going.
I always suggest including a question or piece of trivia or something in your profile so that people are motivated to email you. If you have nothing to say, then it’s hard to initiate an email.