Dating Tales

Effectively approaching someone online is important. It is probably one of the most important steps in meeting someone online—second to having a well-written profile.

Think of it like this…you see someone across the room of a restaurant standing by the bar. She has a beautiful smile, gorgeous legs, and a nicely put together outfit. You notice that she’s been looking at you even making eye contact a few times.

You get up the courage to talk to her and excuse yourself from your table of friends. Walking right up to her you flash your pearly whites, put out your hand, and introduce yourself when she says:

“Do you mind stepping back? You just spit on my face.”

See what I mean? Don’t blow your chance at a first impression in online dating by saying something in an e-mail or online chat that is over the top or boring. Instead, be witty and thoughtful. If you have trouble coming up with your own conversation ideas, try these ice breakers.

1) If I were to write a book, the main character would be…
2) The best beach I have ever been to was…
3) If reincarnation is real, I hope to come back as a…
4) Today I saw a painting that reminded me of…
5) The one noise I wish I could mute from the world is…
6) If I had to eat the same thing for the rest of my life it would be…
7) I feel bad for my remote control because…

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Dating Tales knows compliments. When it comes to complimenting men, there are two things you must keep in mind. First, you need to stroke his ego. Second, you need to acknowledge something he has done or acknowledge his overall wonderful-ness in a genuine way.

Sorry men. I don’t mean to sound condescending; I just mean to help you out. So are you in need of a few good compliments for a man? Here are a seven ideas for you.

1) This is the best gift you have ever given me.
2) You always make me laugh with your knock-knock jokes.
3) I’m happiest when you and I __________________
4) Thank you for helping me.
5) You fascinate me with your ___________________
6) I know I can always count on you.
7) That ________________ on you is so sexy on you.

This is the phrase people use to describe the pros and cons list you create to decide if someone is right for you. We’ve all done it. You take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On one side you write down all the reasons why you love him and on the other side you write down all the reasons you shouldn’t love him.

Ross did this in an episode of Friends. You know the one where Rachel sees the list and then breaks up with him for one of the many times.

Anyway, a friend of mine just completed hers and darn it, I just have to share. It’s damn funny.