Dating Tales

Unfortunately, 20 million Americans have the sexually transmitted virus, human papilloma virus (HPV). Most media coverage focuses on women’s increased risk of cervical cancer and the latest vaccine called Gardasil, which is given to young girls as prevention. Lately, though, there has been more attention given to the risk for some men (see FoxNews article, “HPV and Men: Should Boys Be Vaccinated Against the STD?”). This proves that it’s not just a woman’s issue. It’s an issue for all sexually-active people, including men.

So when dating and pursuing sexual partners, what’s the protocol? It’s never easy to fess up to an STD, but your conscience and your partner will appreciate your honesty. Besides, it’s so darn common there is a good chance the other person has it anyway.

To start, be good about getting your pap smears and other STD testing. Every year it’s a good idea to visit the doctor for both your health and peace of mind.  Second, avoid having intercourse too soon in a relationship.

And when that’s not what you want to do, just be bold. If you are honest about it and come yielding condoms, you might be surprised by the reaction. Most people won’t be surprised or judgmental. And those that are, aren’t worth your time anyway.

Another route to take is to work with single sites that cater to singles with STDs. I’ve yet to find something specific to HPV, but sites like Positive Singles are friendly to all.