May 13th, 2008
Dating Tale: He Forgot My Birthday
A couple of years ago I dated a guy that I met on Elite Mate. It was a fun relationship. We laughed a lot, kept it light hearted, and managed to spend a lot of time together after a pretty short period of time.
About a month in I planned a trip away to visit friends over my birthday. I told him all about it even mentioning that I was turning 26 several different times that same weekend. Well, the time came for him to call and wish me a happy birthday and my phone didn’t ring. I even called him expecting a “happy birthday,” but I only got his voicemail.
He completely, 100% forgot my birthday. I was bummed.
Now I know there are many people that just wouldn’t care. It’s only a birthday and we were only dating for a couple of months. But like I said, I was bummed.
A few days after I returned from my trip he did call and I let it go to voicemail. I was still too disappointed. His message said that he hoped I had a good birthday and he couldn’t wait to see me again.
I couldn’t let it go. I couldn’t see him again.
I “broke up” with him (if you can even call it that) over the phone that same week. He tried to talk me out of it, but I just knew I wouldn’t forget that he was the forgetful one.
What would you do?
I agree, “kick him to the curb.” lol
I would definitely be mad! I think it’s a sign of things to come and many more forgotten birthdays!
Glad to know I didn’t over react.
From a male perspective, I think that you may have over-reacted. However, was this the only reason why you broke up with him? Most people don’t do something like this unless there is more behind it or they have some other related experience.
I think I was on the fence with him a little. So this tipped me over.
I’m not sure that it in itself is enough to dump a guy. They’re awful with birthdays, mostly because they don’t take them as seriously as women do. They see it as a night out with free drinks, we see it as the day someone (friend/man/family) blessed came into the world, and thus, forever affecting our lives. Perception, I would have cut him a bit of slack.
But it seems you were on the fence, so I suppose this was more of an excuse to cut bait.