Dating Tales

We are all frustrated by the same dating patterns we’ve all got. You ask yourself, why do I end up dating the same guy always? Every boyfriend reminds me of my dad, why? The guy with the really spiky hair is the only type that approaches me, how come?

You date the same type of guy because you continue to be the same type of person. If you don’t want to date a jerk, then you need to discover whatever it is about you that attracts them and then change it.

Now don’t get me wrong, sometimes people are just big, huge jerks. But we’re talking about you; we’re not talking about them. To stop your jerk-dating pattern, here are three steps you need to follow.

First Step: Ask a Friend

If more than once you’ve dated the same type of loser, go to your most honest friend and ask why they think that is. Really listen to what they tell you.

Be Single: Second Step

For awhile you need to decide to be single. You are truly single during this time so date yourself. Get to know what it is that makes you and learn what makes you tick. Think about what you need to be happy and what it is you’re really looking for. Figure it out and once you do, write it down, keep it in your bag, and read it every day.

Third Step: Dating the Antithesis

Do yourself a favor and date someone that is nothing like your ex, when you are ready. So seek someone that is different; get a taste for what is out there. You might be surprised to find that you connect with all kinds of people-even if you don’t think they’re your “type.”

With time and self-reflection you won’t date anymore jerks. Like all challenges we face, the first step is admitting you have a problem.