Pay For the One You Brought

By Sara | March 24, 2008

Several months ago I asked, who should pay on a first date? Quite a few of you answered and I think the answer is pretty clear. Whoever asks for the date should pay for the date. That sounds fair to me.

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4 Comments

Matt Katz

Posted March 25, 2008 at 9:45 pm | Permalink

The dude pays for the first date. Period. I’ve known men who have tried to avoid this — or those who have fallen for the fake female move to the wallet — and they’ve never gone on a second date. All the other dates are fair game, but barring unusual circumstances — she asks him out under the condition that she pays, for example — men ALWAYS pay the first time. (These rules are enforced and reinforced by women, by the way…)
Sara

Posted March 26, 2008 at 10:45 am | Permalink

Depends on the woman, but I see your point.
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Posted April 5, 2008 at 10:25 pm | Permalink

The answer to this question has multiple contingencies. For example, I went on a blind date with a woman a couple years ago and after a little discussion, we both agreed that we should split the check.

Now, when I have asked women out to dinner or a movie, I insisted on paying for everything. There are probably a number of other factors involved, but I probably can’t think of any of them.

In regards to Matt’s comment above, just because the men you are referring to avoided paying for the first date, that doesn’t necessarily mean that is the reason why they didn’t get a second date.
Sara

Posted April 6, 2008 at 12:15 pm | Permalink

Honestly, and I mean honestly really. Whether or not I take a second date really has nothing to do with whether he paid for the first. If he was weird about it, though, that might change my mind. When I say weird I mean being stingy or analytical or something.