Thursday, December 23, 2010

Finding Love in the Check-Out Line

March 17, 2008 by Sara  
Filed under Finding Your Match

Our good friend Anonymous has followed up with Dating Tales to let us know how his grocery store mama is doing. If you didn’t read my original post, Finding Love in the Cereal Aisle, you should read that first so this makes sense.

Here is the post from Anonymous: 

Sara,

I took your advice, along with some others and approached the woman at the grocery store that I was referring to. Yesterday I set it up so that I would end up in her cashier lane. She was pretty busy so I didn’t say much because I am a shy person when I first get to know someone. However, before I left I said, ” I hope that I am not out of line, but take a look at this when you have a minute.” I gave her my business card with a note on the back. The note said, “Hi, I shop here regularly and have been wanting to talk to you, but you are always busy. My name is **** and I would like to get to know you better. My phone number is ***-***-****. I hope you call.

I go to this place a few times a week because it is also where I bank. I know that in a previous post you stated to just smile and say hi when I see her. Other than this, do you have any other suggestions regarding approaches?

Thanks,
Anonymous

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I stand by my original advice. You did your part so now just go with the flow.  Continue to be friendly and say hi; it’s even ok to go through her line from time to time. Maybe in a couple months if nothing has happened you could approach her again and say something like, “Do you remember me from 2 months ago? I gave you my card. Any chance I could take you to dinner?”

Regardless of what happens you did good. You took a risk and that’s what life and dating is all about.

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Comments

5 Responses to “Finding Love in the Check-Out Line”
  1. Jenny says:

    That’s so sweet!

  2. Sara says:

    See Anonymous. Other people think what you are doing is good too.

  3. Anonymous says:

    Sara,

    I wanted to apologize for wasting your time. The reason why I say this is because I am currently writing a paper on sexual harassment for grad school. In this paper I am writing about the different types of sexual harassers. Based upon the fact that I have not really said too much to this woman at the grocery store, I feel that I am no better than some of the individuals listed on the website. Therefore, and in order to not make her feel uncomfortable, I will no longer pursue this or even go into that store again.

    Lets be honest here ladies, if a man approaches you the way I did without even talking to you that much, that would rub most people the wrong way. The bottom line here is that I am a coward and will never put myself out there because I only see all of the negative things 10 miles down the road.

    The purpose of this comment is to apologize for wasting your time. I don’t want any reply’s or any sympathy. Again I apologize for wasting your time and the space on your website.

    Take care and keep on doing what you are doing because there is somebody out there that will use your advice.

  4. Sara says:

    Don’t apologize and you’re not wasting anyone’s time. Flirting with someone or asking someone out is not harrassment. Don’t take yourself so seriously!

  5. Anonymous says:

    You are right, I do take myself very seriously. Maybe I will give it a shot, but I am mostly afraid not of rejection but of the fact that I may take advantage of her or hurt her feelings, which I don’t want to do. I have never been close to anyone in my life because for some odd reason I tend to push people away before they can push me away. Consequently, I feel very, very alone.

    A quote from a very great movie called, “Coach Carter” sums up my thoughts and feelings. The following was taken directly from said movie, ” Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

    But unfortunately for me, I don’t know if I will ever let anyone see this in me based upon the fear of what people will think.

    Take care

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