Dating Tales

There are two situations in life where men feel compelled to flirt with women in an overbearing way.

The first and most obvious is the drunk situation. A little bit of false confidence can go a long way when a guy is mustering the courage to talk to a girl.

The second is when a girl needs help moving into or out of her apartment. Men often feel that by moving her dresser, for example, they’ve somehow exhibited super-human strength that she surely cannot resist.

I had the pleasure of enduring both of these situations (at once) the other night while helping out a friend. My friend is moving to a faraway land called San Diego, and so she has decided to sell all her furniture. We were standing in front of her apartment building, with her couch right next to us I might add, waiting for someone off Craigslist to come by when this man comes stumbling around the corner.

Now in normal life, this guy is probably alright. But he was wasted and insisted on helping us load this couch into the soon-to-be-arriving van. After telling him “no thanks” several times we finally just agreed to let him help.

When the van arrived he picked up one end of the couch and then promptly dropped it. Trying a second time, he didn’t drop it but he was teetering this way and that way making me certain this scene was never going to end. But to our relief he pulled through and the couch made it into the van.

My friend finished the transaction with the Craigslist lady and that’s when the drunk Casanova really decided to go for it.

“Hey,” he said with eyes crossed and swaying body. “Can I have a minute of your time?”

“No. Busy,” I replied.

That wasn’t enough for him so he asked for my name. I replied quickly and then walked away, avoiding all eye contact. But he wouldn’t give up. He followed right behind me asking me for a couple minutes to talk.

I was silent.

Finally, my friend finished with the couch and we continued on inside back toward the elevator. We managed to get in the elevator and shut the door on him, but not before he told us what apartment he was in.

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There are a few things that many of us don’t think about when it comes to marriage proposals. The reason is probably because it’s a hard thing to prepare for, and because it hopefully doesn’t happen that often.

Here are a few ideas for those of you on both the proposer and proposee side.

1)    If you choose to ask your soon-to-be fiance’s parents, think through the words. You’ll be nervous and there’s no need to be unprepared. A friend of mine recently asked his girlfriend’s dad what he thought about marrying his own daughter. The father’s response was to laugh and say that he already had a wife. Awkward.

2)    Making the moment special is important, but don’t get so caught up in the dramatics that you lose sight of love. Keep it sweet and keep it about the two of you.

3)    If you have an idea that you may be proposed to soon, take a minute or two to think of how you will accept. During the actual moment you may be so overcome that you are speechless. This is a great way to make the person with the ring question your response. Even if it’s just an “I love you” it will help ease the nerves.

4)    A public proposal requires a kit. Make sure to bring tissue, a camera, cell phone, and makeup in case she chooses to re-apply.

5)    Don’t spend a lot of time afterwards on the phone with family and friends. Choose a few people to talk to and save the rest for later. Enjoy the moment!

6)    Definitely don’t start planning right away. It’s only normal to start fantasizing about the big day, but you’ll have plenty of time to focus on that. In the first few days be happy about the marriage, not the wedding.

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Craigslist is a great dating opportunity if you have a strong stomach and are up for an interesting read. You will have to weed out a lot of scary and boring offers, but it’s definitely an option for you.

Here are few tips if you chose to explore Craigslist:

1) Whatever you do don’t give out your last name or phone number in your profile and avoid those that do. If your e-mail address includes your last name, consider creating an address that does not.

2) Don’t be discouraged by the raunchy or overly aggressive profiles. While you shouldn’t contact those people, understand that there are a few good ones out there and you shouldn’t give up too easy.

3) Don’t ignore profiles because he or she doesn’t have a photo. Because Craigslist is so public I can understand why someone would choose not to post one. Just make sure to ask for a photo after you’ve exchanged a few e-mails.

4) Just because its Craigslist doesn’t mean you can write like crap. Same rules apply as in other online dating profiles. Be creative and to the point. If you need help writing a profile, use the DatingTales Writing Service.

5) None of these individuals have been screened so before meeting this person face to face, do a little screening of your own. A Google search or a PeopleSearch may help give you an insight, however its not 100% so be careful no matter what you do.