It’s not all high notes and melodies with a musician. But who doesn’t love a sexy rock star? Figuring out what makes a good partner is important and weighing the pros and cons is a good way to do that.
| PROS |
CONS |
| He will write songs for you |
Groupies |
| The music at your wedding will be prime |
Most nights you’re at the bar watching him play |
| He could get a record deal |
He could get a record deal |
| Your kids will be creative |
He won’t get a day job |
| Depending on what instrument he plays, he’ll be great with his hands or lips, or both |
You’ll have to compete with his band mates |
One of my best friends has a wonderful, robust laugh and a weak bladder to go along with it. One of her favorite lines is “That’s so funny I almost peed myself.”
Peeing your pants can be a little funny, but it can also be humiliating. Just ask Fergie.
Last summer in San Diego the singer had a little accident while on stage with her buddies The Black Eyed Peas. (Peas, Pee. Get it? A little ironic I think.) At first her reps claimed it was sweat, but later Fergie came clean about the uncleanliness. Its simple: she just couldn’t hold it.
Nothing more to report on that. Over.
There are many online dating sites, each having their own unique flavor that I recommend, however, I have a hard time recommending one in particular. eHarmony.
Although eHarmony has a unique, and somewhat private matching system, a mission to counsel married couples, and also a self-proclaimed diverse pool of singles, there is one thing that they won’t do: help the gays.
In May a California woman filed a lawsuit against eHarmony claiming that they would not help her find a mate because she was a lesbian. eHarmony claims that it is not opposed to offering this service it just does not do it at this time.
Fair enough, but something tells me that a company founded by a minister with ties to Focus on the Family isn’t too eager to do so.
It appears that eHarmony doesn’t help all heterosexuals either. A close friend of mine hesitantly went online to complete the tedious application process only to be told that eHarmony couldn’t match her. The automated response said that one out of five individuals cannot be helped by eHarmony.
How’s that for choosy?
I had an online romance a couple years back that I’m reminded of from time to time when I hear about perverts with camera phones. Sounds strange, I know, but after being introduced to a topless woman via camera phone let’s just say I’ve been a little scarred.
It was our second date after a short week or ten days on phone and e-mail. I met him on EliteMate.com and we quickly had a connection. He had a great sense of humor and seemed to be really interested, at least until the camera phone incident.
We were at an Irish Pub in my neighborhood enjoying a good ol’ Irish beer when he decides to tell me about his day off. He talked about how he surfs early in the morning and then naps on the beach until about 11 or so. Today, however, he was there a little longer because of this girl who was laying out topless.
I didn’t scowl, I just sat and listened acting completely interested all the while wondering if he realized what he was saying. My wonderment soon ended when he pulled out his phone to show me a picture of her… bare boobies and all. He did know what he was doing and that was clear when he said, “This is probably my first mistake, huh?”
First and last buddy.
A well-written profile is equivalent to having good table manners on a first date. If you don’t pay attention to the basics in dating either online or offline, you could miss out on a romantic connection.
The analogy of table manners is the same as having an organized and logical profile. Now this doesn’t need to be an eloquent five-paragraph essay, but just like in meeting someone face to face you have only seconds to impress that person. So choose your words wisely. Avoid swearing or using slang (at least use them sparingly), stick to point, and don’t bore your reader with details.
More importantly, be creative.
Don’t describe yourself in a cliche or generic way. Read the profiles of ten women and men in your area with characteristics similar to yours. Research your written profile by searching out your competitors. In reading these profiles list the things those people mention and notice the pattern, for example, does almost everyone mention travel, interesting books or movies, and Chinese food? Be sure not to include those items in your own profile. Be different.
Similarly find ten men or women whose profiles you like the most and would be interested in getting to know. Again, read each profile carefully and make a list of the things he or she writes about. You should definitely mention any unique interests that you share in your own profile.
The point is that you want to make a good impression so that your potential connections read all of your profile, and are motivated to contact you. You can woo this person later in your e-mails, but for right now just get them interested.
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