In a world where women demand equality, why do they not demand it when dating? Women will never gain the respect of men while the majority of girls pick and choose what parts of equality they want and don’t want.

The only fair answer and the one that will leave no one feeling obligated to engage in favors later on, is that they should each pay for their own bill or decide ahead of time to split the total cost evenly. A date is between two people, not one. She is present just a much as he is. Why should the man be forced to pay for everything? Personally, a woman that accepts a man paying for the total cost of a date is asking for trouble. He will never respect you as his equal and will not only expect to get something more than just your company for the money he spent on you, he will feel that you owe him more. He will feel that he has bought the right to sleep with you that night. Though most men will not admit it. They do.

Once the two of you actually enter into a serious relationship and are committed to one another. One person paying for a date is fine as long both are in agreement of it. Feelings of obligation are the one thing that a man feels most resentful and angry towards a woman for. Women can avoid this by asking themselves, “Would I think it’s fair if I was expected to pay for the total cost of our date?”

And to build on ‘expectations’ and “tradition”, if women want to follow that way, then they would be more like domestic and sexual servants than girlfriends or wives. They seem to want equality without the sacrifices and responsibilities of that equality. If you want to be equal to a man, you must be will to hold yourself to a man’s standard. If you are not willing to do that than you must stay in your own standard as a woman.

Personally, I believe men and women aren’t meant to be equals. Otherwise, men and women would both have a jimmy and twin stones to bear. Their is a reason why man is equipped with the pole and woman with the hole. Man is dominant and woman is submissive. He leads, she follows. Pick up a religious text and this is very evident. People who practice this enjoy a full, loving and long-lasting marriage. Otherwise, divorce is eminent. There can be only one commander per army. One king per castle. One man/head per household. When women push and attempt to share this spot with a man, he is going to slip and eventually fall of his pedestal. A man off his pedestal is an empty shell.

Overall, men and women should learn to be happy, satisfied, and comfortable with staying in their own place. Period.

All that being said…ummm…err….

…the man pays.

But that’s not ALL women. I have plenty of girlfriends that have done a bit of asking themselves.

I think that women should be asking more men out, should be paying for more dates, and I also think they should be making more money.

How do we make this happen?

The problem with women who want to lean on the old-fashioned/chivalrous or “it’s just traditional” way of thinking is that they’re saying “we want equality, just not when dating.” That’s the proverbial ‘cake and eat it too’ attitude that sets back women’s true equality movement.

If a woman claims a man should pay for a date because it’s “tradition” and the way it’s always been done and its expected, etc, few would jump down her throat for thinking that way. But if the man wanted to bring up his ‘expectations’ and “tradition”, i.e. that she will clean, cook, defer to him, and sleep with him, all of a sudden, he’s a misogynist pig.

See the hypocrisy?