Comments on: Dating a Doctor: Pros and Cons http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/ Chronicles for the single, the formerly single, and those wishing they were single. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 06:03:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Helen http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/comment-page-8/#comment-50931 Helen Wed, 08 Feb 2012 06:03:16 +0000 http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/#comment-50931 This site is awesome! I just started seeing a ER doc for about two months now. I'm currently working and studying to be a nurse. So glad to read these posts... I'm troubled... Time is a real problem. And communication as well. I respect his job totally cause i know how much stress docs are under and since i'm in the medical/health field i know how time consuming it is. Wont deny i get lonely at times... On holidays from university so.. The lonliness has hit hard. Never sure if he's seeing someone else (even though he has always made sure i know he's not) it's hard!! But he's worth the effort and time. I suppose i would've preferred it if he was a plumber :P We also have an.. A 13 year age gap. He's 36 and i'm turning 23 soon. So we are at different stages in life. But ... He's wonderful when i am with him. So i suppose it's worth it. I leArn alot of patience and tolerance. Other professions also have their pros and cons..Could be dating a pilot or soldier... This site is awesome!

I just started seeing a ER doc for about two months now. I’m currently working and studying to be a nurse. So glad to read these posts… I’m troubled… Time is a real problem. And communication as well. I respect his job totally cause i know how much stress docs are under and since i’m in the medical/health field i know how time consuming it is.

Wont deny i get lonely at times… On holidays from university so.. The lonliness has hit hard. Never sure if he’s seeing someone else (even though he has always made sure i know he’s not) it’s hard!!

But he’s worth the effort and time. I suppose i would’ve preferred it if he was a plumber :P

We also have an.. A 13 year age gap. He’s 36 and i’m turning 23 soon. So we are at different stages in life. But … He’s wonderful when i am with him. So i suppose it’s worth it. I leArn alot of patience and tolerance.

Other professions also have their pros and cons..Could be dating a pilot or soldier…

]]> By: Mililani http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/comment-page-8/#comment-50241 Mililani Mon, 16 Jan 2012 15:25:34 +0000 http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/#comment-50241 I am happy for your liberation, Joie De! Congrats! So sorry you had to go through that. But now we know the story behind dating a doctor, and you know you did all you could, at least. I am happy for your liberation, Joie De! Congrats! So sorry you had to go through that. But now we know the story behind dating a doctor, and you know you did all you could, at least.

]]> By: Joie De http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/comment-page-8/#comment-50227 Joie De Mon, 16 Jan 2012 05:33:45 +0000 http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/#comment-50227 Hey Mililani, Well we broke up today. Turns out he was a complete asswhole. And his reasons behind the break up were so childish. I was definitely was hurt bc this was a side that I've never seen of him before. Like I mentioned before I've known him for 10 years however we just reconnected last year after a 4.5 yr hiatus. So I knew him as a friend...not a lover. I was proud that I exited the relationship gracefully. Not one tear shed...well... in his presence. Lol But I feel so liberated...so free! Because I'm confident that I gave him/ and our relationship my all. Lesson learned. Crazy thing is I would date another Doctor but I would tread carefully! Lol best of luck to you ladies and thank you again for your encouragement & support. Hey Mililani,
Well we broke up today. Turns out he was a complete asswhole. And his reasons behind the break up were so childish. I was definitely was hurt bc this was a side that I’ve never seen of him before. Like I mentioned before I’ve known him for 10 years however we just reconnected last year after a 4.5 yr hiatus. So I knew him as a friend…not a lover. I was proud that I exited the relationship gracefully. Not one tear shed…well… in his presence. Lol But I feel so liberated…so free! Because I’m confident that I gave him/ and our relationship my all. Lesson learned. Crazy thing is I would date another Doctor but I would tread carefully! Lol best of luck to you ladies and thank you again for your encouragement & support.

]]> By: Mililani http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/comment-page-8/#comment-50226 Mililani Mon, 16 Jan 2012 05:13:15 +0000 http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/#comment-50226 Hi Joie De, Yes, that pattern is sooo familiar. If you judge them by their actions,and you should, then you should definitely just forget about him. Their ability/interest in learning from past mistakes seems to be non-existant. Which to me shows that he really doesn't actually need you. He just wants to have someone he can name if some else asks him if he has a girlfriend. Not much of a relationship. Hi Joie De,
Yes, that pattern is sooo familiar. If you judge them by their actions,and you should, then you should definitely just forget about him. Their ability/interest in learning from past mistakes seems to be non-existant. Which to me shows that he really doesn’t actually need you. He just wants to have someone he can name if some else asks him if he has a girlfriend. Not much of a relationship.

]]> By: Joie De http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/comment-page-8/#comment-50161 Joie De Sat, 14 Jan 2012 01:15:53 +0000 http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/#comment-50161 Hey Ladies, So I finally had a nice talk with my boyfriend. And he told me the reason why he hadn't really contacted me and came off a little cold n distant was because he saw that his feelings are growing intensely for me and I was becoming a distraction on top of all of the other life things going on (busy holidays at the hospitial, boards exam etc.) and he did not want to have to end the relationship, so he backed off for a few of days. I was relieved and irritated ar the same time because he could have just communicated that to me in the first place! Since day one I have been understanding, supporting, encouraging and non-confrontational with him. I have my own life and career that keeps me busy. So it boggles my mind why he decided to take space the way he did. I told him never to do that to me again and that he should see by my actions that he can talk to me and tell me when he is becoming overwhelmed and needs space. Guess what?? he turned around and did the same crap the next day! ignored my tm and hasn't even tm since I saw him Monday. Remeber less than 2 weeks agao, I was getting at least a tm a day.That is all I ask for and that is what he has been doing, so why is that so hard? Im putting my foot down and I am not contacting him. I hate to have to play these games... smh Hey Ladies,

So I finally had a nice talk with my boyfriend. And he told me the reason why he hadn’t really contacted me and came off a little cold n distant was because he saw that his feelings are growing intensely for me and I was becoming a distraction on top of all of the other life things going on (busy holidays at the hospitial, boards exam etc.) and he did not want to have to end the relationship, so he backed off for a few of days. I was relieved and irritated ar the same time because he could have just communicated that to me in the first place! Since day one I have been understanding, supporting, encouraging and non-confrontational with him. I have my own life and career that keeps me busy. So it boggles my mind why he decided to take space the way he did. I told him never to do that to me again and that he should see by my actions that he can talk to me and tell me when he is becoming overwhelmed and needs space. Guess what?? he turned around and did the same crap the next day! ignored my tm and hasn’t even tm since I saw him Monday. Remeber less than 2 weeks agao, I was getting at least a tm a day.That is all I ask for and that is what he has been doing, so why is that so hard? Im putting my foot down and I am not contacting him. I hate to have to play these games… smh

]]> By: Joie De http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/comment-page-8/#comment-49967 Joie De Sat, 07 Jan 2012 22:31:38 +0000 http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/#comment-49967 Mililani, Thank you much for sharing and normalizing my concerns. I realize I have to decide what I am willing to put up wit. And if it's him, I need thick skin. Your right I've met other men and they are no match...even with my concerns. So I will hang in there...you ladies have definitely given me some hope I LOVE this blog! Mililani,
Thank you much for sharing and normalizing my concerns. I realize I have to decide what I am willing to put up wit. And if it’s him, I need thick skin. Your right I’ve met other men and they are no match…even with my concerns. So I will hang in there…you ladies have definitely given me some hope I LOVE this blog!

]]> By: Mililani http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/comment-page-8/#comment-49958 Mililani Sat, 07 Jan 2012 05:31:55 +0000 http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/#comment-49958 Hi Joie De- That is so true about trying to talk to him about something important. It's hard to figure out, when is the best time to have a real conversation with him, when is he most likely to be able to really listen. Some things I've told him from over a year ago, he remember quite clearly. Others, it's as if I was talking to a wall when I told him. I got frustrated when it was a pretty important detail (I am no longer on the pill, we don't need to use protection, I got my tubes tied, at his hospital, his golfing buddy did the surgery). But it's a matter of making sure he is in listening mode and figure out what he considers important and therefore worth remembering. I think he remembers every compliment I've given him, for example! A two-week rough spot is unfortunately normal, and it will happen again down the road. Hang in there! If you break up with him, think about dating other men. Will that make you happy? Or will you be comparing the new guy to him and finding he falls short? I've been there. He's been in your life for 10 years, that might be a lot to be throwing away. Maybe your relationship can morph into something else? Hi Joie De-
That is so true about trying to talk to him about something important. It’s hard to figure out, when is the best time to have a real conversation with him, when is he most likely to be able to really listen. Some things I’ve told him from over a year ago, he remember quite clearly. Others, it’s as if I was talking to a wall when I told him. I got frustrated when it was a pretty important detail (I am no longer on the pill, we don’t need to use protection, I got my tubes tied, at his hospital, his golfing buddy did the surgery). But it’s a matter of making sure he is in listening mode and figure out what he considers important and therefore worth remembering. I think he remembers every compliment I’ve given him, for example!
A two-week rough spot is unfortunately normal, and it will happen again down the road. Hang in there! If you break up with him, think about dating other men. Will that make you happy? Or will you be comparing the new guy to him and finding he falls short? I’ve been there. He’s been in your life for 10 years, that might be a lot to be throwing away. Maybe your relationship can morph into something else?

]]> By: Joie De http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/comment-page-8/#comment-49956 Joie De Sat, 07 Jan 2012 04:43:37 +0000 http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/#comment-49956 KP, Thank you very much for the validation and encouragement. I really dont want to call it quits. This is why we have lasted this long, because when I do become irritated or miss him, I attempt to put myself in his shoes. I even watch Greys Anatomy and "The Gifted Man" to get a glimpse of what he may possibly be going through. I think due to my own stress level with my work around the Holidays made me edgey and sensitive to things I usaaly dont worry about. I sort of snapped at him regarding avoiding and ignoring questions I asked . Dont get me wrong, it never bothers me when I dont hear from him, I used to that now. But it grinds my gears when I tm him some important question and he replies back with and avoidant response or random things that have no conncetion to what I asked . He hasn't contacted me in 2 days and I dont want to give in. I know that may sound childish, however I just want to see a little effort... a bit of concern that he could possibly loose me. I dislike being the one to reach out after a disagreement or strongxchange of words. But you ladies truly do give me hope! And yes Doc wives/ girlfriends need a show!They would have to do most of the taping at the hospitial lol KP,

Thank you very much for the validation and encouragement. I really dont want to call it quits. This is why we have lasted this long, because when I do become irritated or miss him, I attempt to put myself in his shoes. I even watch Greys Anatomy and “The Gifted Man” to get a glimpse of what he may possibly be going through. I think due to my own stress level with my work around the Holidays made me edgey and sensitive to things I usaaly dont worry about. I sort of snapped at him regarding avoiding and ignoring questions I asked . Dont get me wrong, it never bothers me when I dont hear from him, I used to that now. But it grinds my gears when I tm him some important question and he replies back with and avoidant response or random things that have no conncetion to what I asked . He hasn’t contacted me in 2 days and I dont want to give in. I know that may sound childish, however I just want to see a little effort… a bit of concern that he could possibly loose me. I dislike being the one to reach out after a disagreement or strongxchange of words. But you ladies truly do give me hope! And yes Doc wives/ girlfriends need a show!They would have to do most of the taping at the hospitial lol

]]> By: Mililani http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/comment-page-8/#comment-49949 Mililani Sat, 07 Jan 2012 03:32:39 +0000 http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/#comment-49949 KP- Yes, I guess you're right about that. You'd see a bunch of rich, bitchy alcoholic women waiting for their husbands who promised they'd be there. wife's birthday dinner. And there sits the wife on her birthday, at the table with the seat next to her empty. Wow. I'm pretty awful! KP-
Yes, I guess you’re right about that. You’d see a bunch of rich, bitchy alcoholic women waiting for their husbands who promised they’d be there. wife’s birthday dinner. And there sits the wife on her birthday, at the table with the seat next to her empty. Wow. I’m pretty awful!

]]> By: KP http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/comment-page-8/#comment-49947 KP Sat, 07 Jan 2012 02:22:56 +0000 http://www.datingtales.net/2007/10/dating-a-doctor-pros-and-cons/#comment-49947 Hahaha but you know what's funny? You barely see any of those high profile husbands on any of the shows. So guess we'd fit right in! Lol Hahaha but you know what’s funny? You barely see any of those high profile husbands on any of the shows. So guess we’d fit right in! Lol

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