Dating Tales

For decades this question has gone unanswered and it’s time we settle the issue. I’d like to know and I know you, the reader and dater, want to know too. Who should pay for the first date?

For me, this inquiry was recently brought up after a friend and I discussed an awkward date with a very cheap man. You actually know part of this “missed connection” story because I told it in my “Women Picking Up Men, It’s a Beautiful Thing” post.

The good news is that my friend did go on a date with the cute boy from Craigslist, but the bad news is that he was weird about the bill. So weird, in fact, that she won’t go out with him again.

The story goes like this: At the end of the date she went for her credit card expecting him to say, “No, no. I got it.” When he didn’t say anything she was still OK with paying half because in her mind that was perfectly fair anyway.

But things got weird when he started adding up what was hers (1 beer and 1 burger) and what was his (1 burger). After totaling his amount owed, he opened up his wallet for her to see that there were at least 10, very crisp, twenty dollar bills inside. To make matters worse, he left a $1 tip.

The feminist in me says that women should be willing to pay for half or all of the bill, but then the traditionalist in me says that I should be wined and dined. What do you think? Answer the poll and leave your comments with your ideas. It’s time we settle this issue once and for all.

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There are some things that I just refuse to spend money on and those are the things that go on my Christmas list. This year I wish Christmas was earlier because I’m in a wedding very soon and could use some extra padding on the rear. This might be better than the padded bra.

Boredom. It’s the perfect reason to meet new people. Dating is an opportunity to try that new Moroccan restaurant, see that stupid kung fu movie none of your friends will go see, or walk through the latest exhibit at the art museum. It’s a reason to do the things you don’t want to do on your own. Embrace it.

Singlesnet.com is a great site that should not be overlooked. Try it and follow the tips I mention in the DatingTales online dating guide.

What is my “type”? Obviously, he is smart, funny, and cute. But who doesn’t have this type?

Seems that for those of us that are seriously looking for a mate, then we should dig deep and determine what it is that will make us happy long term. These are some suggestions to get you there.

Personality tests. Insight into what makes you tick can be found in any one of dozens of personality tests available. An online search will turn up tests like Myers-Briggs that are geared toward career options, but will certainly help you analyze yourself and what you need to be happy in a relationship too.

Make a pros/cons list of all your ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends. This isn’t an exercise in self-destruction. You shouldn’t try to re-live all your past traumas, but it is important to learn from your experiences. Think back on the qualities of the person or the relationship that you liked and disliked the most. Use your history to seek out what you know will work.

Find your fantasy love affair. AOL Personals has taken some of its members’ profiles and categorized them by celebs they are similar to. If you like Matthew McConaughey, Patrick Dempsey, or Katie Holmes, for example, try it out just for fun.

Values. Only accept a date with someone who shares your values. This is the key to a long-lasting relationship. Identify your fundamental beliefs and priorities so that you don’t end up with a partner that may expect you to compromise those things later. Whether it’s a career, faith, geographic location, or children, decide what is most important to you.

Shop around online. For the picky single, online dating sites are a gift. Sites like EliteMate.com, and Singlesnet.com are a few sites worth browsing. There may be qualities about someone that you didn’t think about before and realize you would enjoy. Who knows, maybe you’ll decide you want to meet him or her for real and join the dating site.

All of these suggestions will certainly guide you in the right direction. However, it’s important to keep an open mind and date people from all walks of life; you never know who might surprise you. And besides all that, it’s part of the finding-your-type process.

Visit the DatingTales online dating guide for more dating tips.

This has been circulating around the internet and because it’s quite hilarious, I though I’d share.

Jay Leno went into the audience to find the most embarrassing first date that a woman ever had. He found a woman with this story…

She said it was midwinter. Snowing and quite cold. And the guy had taken her skiing in the mountains outside Salt Lake City, Utah, for a day skiing. No overnights. They were strangers, after all, and truly had never met before.

The outing was fun but relatively uneventful until they were headed home late that afternoon.

They were driving back down the mountain, when she gradually began to realize that she should not have had that extra latte.

They were about an hour away from anywhere with a rest room and in the middle of nowhere! Her companion suggested she try to hold it, which she did for a while.

Unfortunately, because of the heavy snow and slow going, there came a point where she told him that he had better stop and let her go beside the road, or it would be the front seat of his car.

They stopped and she quickly crawled out beside the car, yanked her pants down and started to pee.

In the deep snow she didn’t have good footing, so she let her butt rest against the rear fender to steady herself.

Her companion stood on the side of the car watching for traffic and indeed was a real gentleman and refrained from peeking.

All she could think about was the relief she felt despite the rather embarrassing nature of the situation. Upon finishing however, she soon became aware of another sensation.

As she bent to pull up her pants, the young lady discovered her buttocks were firmly glued against the car’s fender.

Thoughts of tongues frozen to poles immediately came to mind as she attempted to disengage her flesh from the icy metal.

It was quickly apparent that she had a brand new problem due to the extreme cold.

Horrified by her plight and yet aware of the humor of the moment, she answered her date’s concerns about ‘what is taking so long’ with a reply that indeed, she was ‘freezing her butt off’ and in need of some assistance!

He came around the car as she tried to cover herself with her sweater and then, as she looked imploringly into his eyes, he burst out laughing.

She too, got the giggles and when they finally managed to compose themselves, they assessed her dilemma.

Obviously, as hysterical as the situation was, they also were faced with a real problem.

Both agreed it would take something hot to free her chilly cheeks from the grip of the icy metal!

Thinking about what had gotten her into the predicament in the first place, both quickly realized that there was only one way to get her free.

So, as she looked the other way, her first-time date proceeded to unzip his pants and pee her butt off the fender.

The best part of it all?

They fell in love and he became her husband and was sitting next to her on the Leno show.