Jun 20th, 2007
The 10 Best Compliments a Man Can Give a Woman
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I’ve done some research to discover what makes a good compliment. In other words, I asked my friends to tell me about the nicest thing anyone has said to them. Please add to this list by commenting. I’d love to hear from ya.
1. The most complimented I’ve ever been is on my butt. One of my former co-workers recently MySpaced me to say, “J Lo’s got nothin’ on you.”
2. You smell great.
3. How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days is my favorite movie too!
4. I had been on a couple dates with this guy that I really liked. On our third date I agreed to drive and when he saw my car he said, “nice wheels.” I’m not sure why, but it made me feel like such a cool chick.
5. You know, you’re gorgeous.
6. Wow, that looks good on you.
7. As long as you’re there, I don’t care where we go.
8. On a first date we were playing the “what if” game. I asked, “If you could change one thing about your life what would it be?” He responded, “I wish I would’ve met you sooner.”
9. You make me a better person.
10. I know this great place… It’s in your arms. Can I go there soon?
BONUS
11. You have a lot of class.
12. You’re the hottest girl in the room.
13. I have a crush on this guy in my building. We ran into each other at the mailbox and he said, “Did you get your haircut?” I actually had gotten my haircut. It must be love.
14. You are the smartest girl I’ve ever dated.
15. You are the perfect kisser.
16. After being on vacation and not going to the gym for weeks my jeans were feeling tight. Silently feeling guilty while eating creme brulee, my boyfriend looked at me and said, “You are looking really good. I don’t think I’ve seen you any skinnier.”
17. My mom is going to love you.
18. You’re different than other girls.
19. I was playing softball with friends when this guy walked by and said, “Hey, you throw like a guy.” I turned around pretending to be offended. He got the message and said, “I mean, you throw good.”
20. I can tell you anything.
21. You’re my best friend.
OK, so it’s more than 10…I couldn’t stop. Check out my really funny list of BAD compliments…aka 10 great ways to insult a woman.
For more compliments visit the DatingTales compliments soundboard.
I found a site with great compliment advice. Check it out at http://lifecoachesblog.com.
Thank you for replying Sara. After I made the post, and before I read your response, I thought of just saying, “you caught my eye and I would like to get to know you better. Would you like to go out to dinner, movie, for a cup of coffee.
It makes sense. I have been told by many women that I am a great guy, but I don’t have any confidence. One woman actually told me that I am the type of guy that every girl wants to have as a boyfriend. I don’t know if that was an insult, but I think one of my problems is that I try to hard, as you stated in your post.
Also, like some other men, I am attracted to younger women, and generally speaking, and with all due respect, some younger women are still immature and are trying to figure themselves out and want to date someone who is a jerk.
As every woman knows, it is very tough to find someone and there are so many things involved in making a dating decision. Sometimes I just feel like I should just give up, but you just never know who you might meet.
Take care,
Anonymous
Anonymous:
Don’t give up!!! I don’t think that woman was trying to insult you, probably just trying to help. Take a deep breath, put yourself out there, and then just let it go. If she responds, then great. If not, they’ll be dozens more just like her.
-DatingTales
Sara,
Thanks for the advice. I will take your advice and give it a try. You might not care, but I will let you and your readers know what happens. Since you will never know my true identity, I will admit that I don’t put myself out there because I don’t want to get hurt and I also think that people will see right through me and that scares the crap out of me.
I am Irish and I don’t like to open up to anyone. To quote the great movie Departed, “Freud said that the Irish are the only ones who are impervious to psycho-analysis.”
Maybe this is my time to finally put myself out there.
Take care,
Anonymous.
Also, I am looking to create a non-profit organization website. Did you create this one, or did you have it done professionally?
I was at a bar talking to a woman who was having a birthday party. She turned 28 that night and after talking to her I said from an appearance standpoint you look like you are 23, and from a maturity standpoint you seem to be about 35. I was sincere about my compliments and she said that those were the best compliments that she ever received.
Good for you. We all want to look young and be wise in our ways, so that makes perfect sense.
Sara,
I took your advice, along with some others and approached the woman at the grocery store that I was referring to. Yesterday I set it up so that I would end up in her cashier lane. She was pretty busy so I didn’t say much because I am a shy person when I first get to know someone. However, before I left I said, ” I hope that I am not out of line, but take a look at this when you have a minute.” I gave her my business card with a note on the back. The note said, “Hi, I shop here regularly and have been wanting to talk to you, but you are always busy. My name is **** and I would like to get to know you better. My phone number is ***-***-****. I hope you call.
I go to this place a few times a week because it is also where I bank. I know that in a previous post you stated to just smile and say hi when I see her. Other than this, do you have any other suggestions regarding approaches?
Thanks,
Anonymous
How about, you have natural beauty. You are the only woman I have ever seen that can light up any room with your smile.
how about just sayin…you have a beautiful smile! it doesn’t have to be complicated, simple and to the point
how about taking whatever positive thing your woman brings and actually compliment her on that?!? the sad thing about this article is that the “compliments” are canned . . . . insincere . . . . prepackaged. All it takes is a little effort (yes I know a lot of us have the attention span of a fruit fly) to come up with a heart-felt comment that really applies to the woman we are talking to. she’ll quickly see through the fake stuff.
You light up a room with your smile??? I know this great place… it’s in your arms??? Boy, those would make me turn my head… in the other direction. Come on. Compliments should be sincere. Guys, what do you like about a woman? Just come out and say it! But leave out anything that will have you sounding like that guy in the bar with the hairy chest and the gold chains.
You like her smile? Just say, “You have a great smile.” You like her dress? Just say, “Wow, you look hot!” Or if she’s someone you don’t know well, say, “That dress looks really nice on you.” You like her athletic ability? Just say, “I’m glad you’re playing for OUR team!”
Compliments aren’t all that difficult, people. Just say something nice.
But for some people it is difficult. I think the golden rule applies here. Say something to someone that you would like to hear yourself. But what if you don’t hear nice things from other people?
Canned compliments may be insincere but they will help someone new to the practice of complimenting some good fodder to start with.
As stated earlier, everyone takes and looks at compliments differently. Donna stated that, “You light up a room with your smile??? I know this great place… it’s in your arms??? Boy, those would make me turn my head… in the other direction.”
That is just her and not every woman or man. That might be the best compliment for 1 million other women or men. I would say that in terms of compliments, a lot of it depends upon the situation, environment, and most importantly, socialization.
Any of those comments would have been better than the crappy one I got today from my thoughtless boyfriend… “Those new jeans make your butt look less fat than it is.” Yeah, that really made me feel good. He couldn’t comment that I lost 20 pounds since February, or that I did my hair different…real nice.
Just be honest and open,
sometimes love is right around the corner and you not even know it!!
The woman I am currently involved with (seriously) was my best friend of 14 years niece. She asked me to be nice to her and show her around; you know, hang out.
I had just gotten out of a BAD relationship and was in NO way interested in meeting anyone, let alone to date….we went out a few times and had fun…but it turned out we had alot in common….we both love sci-fi…so on her birthday I asked her if she would like a “birthday kiss”; she said YES right away!!
From there on it just got better!!
Colleen- wtf did you settle for?! move on. you can do better than that.
I think insincerity can be felt a mile away and can be bad..but in the end it will depend on the person receiving it -how do they see it? Can they see this person trying but shy so give him/her a go.., or what?
.., sometimes it depends on the persons own self-esteem any compliment can be Great or BAD. When I was a teenager my self-esteem was so low I told a beautiful girl who smiled and said hello to “F” off.
So what do you do? Give it a go. Better than not knowing what could have happened.
Just want to apologize to that girl also.., from melbourne, australia.
“When I look into your eyes, I see the reflection of the man I want to be all the time.”
I don’t know if it works everytime, but it worked once.
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My theory on women is that they’re like mushrooms. Feed em’ sh** and keep ‘em in the dark.
Anonymous, that’s not nice.
Wow, do women really fall for this stuff? Cool!
Anonymous, nice Departed quote.
Well if it’s sincere, then yes, women do “fall” for it.
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Awesome article, Sara. Great job.
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